What I Wish I Knew at 40

Barbara Graves —  November 18, 2011

I guess I am just a slow learner.  Or maybe, we do keep learning our entire life.  Either way, there was at least one thing I wish I had known as a kidmin when I was 40:

The more you share, the more you can do.

With time and tenure in ministry, I accepted a wider area of responsibility.  However, it was difficult for me to learn to let go and let others take on fully projects, tasks, or positions within that area. I think there were two reasons I struggled with letting go: First, I have a deep sense of obligation that what is entrusted to me be done to the best of my ability.  So when I released ministry to others, to allow them to serve along side me, I really didn’t release it completely.  I  shared some of the responsibility for that area, I shared some of the work that needed to be done, but I still helped.

And secondly, I didn’t want to give anyone the impression that they were being dumped on.  I learned, eventually, that giving someone the opportunity to minister, in their own way, within clearly established guidelines and goals, is a great blessing, both to the person serving, and to the church as a whole.  If I clearly share the vision, the goal, the purpose of the ministry that a person is assuming, and then I follow up with them, encourage them and help resource them with what they need to minister, there isn’t a feeling of being used or abandoned.

And keeping a hand, or at least a finger in the project or task limited the amount of ministry that would be ongoing in our church.  I only have 10 fingers.  So, there is the limit to what I can “help” accomplish.  So, I did finally learn to let go.  And, rarely do people do things like I would.  But they serve God and our church.  They serve our community and our kids.  And God is given the glory.  And that is all that matters.

Share.  Share completely.  Let go and let people serve God with you; in their way.

The more you share, the more you can do.

For Him.

Barbara Graves

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Barbara is a married mother of 4 grown kids. She is the volunteer Children’s Pastor at Momentum Church in Woodstock, GA where she oversees kids from birth to 5th grade. She can often be found driving around north Georgia, usually with a cup of coffee in her hand.

2 responses to What I Wish I Knew at 40

  1. I am so enjoying this series! Thank you!