As volunteers and children’s ministers, there is one thing that many of us have in common – we wish we had more time! Oftentimes, we allow our ministry to impact the time we have at home. Even when our ministry does require a lot of time, that is still no excuse for an unorganized home. In today’s article I want to explore some simple tips for helping you organize your home.
As a Certified Family Manager, I sit down with so many families that need help with everyday stuff like balancing their homes. This includes not only and organizing their lives but organizing their physical homes as well. It can be so difficult to focus on your life when your home is in a state of chaos. Tomorrow, we will look at a variety of practical tips for organizing your home room-by-room, but first let’s have a look at the key to any organizational effort.
Focus is the key!
Focus on the things that are important to your family. Have a passion to change things. It is can be hard, but you have to consider how bad do you want an organized home. You need to make a decision. You need to ask yourself some fundamental questions:
- How far will you go to have it?
- What do you want your house to look like?
- Why did you buy this house?
- What do you want for your family?
- Do you want to make things easier?
- Do you believe it’s possible?
Someone can give you all the resources in the world to show you how to do all the things that will make your life easy, but it’s up to you to pull the trigger and actually make it happen. You can either keep things the way they are now or you can decide to change it and go on an incredible journey with God and with your family.
Getting a house organized in the first place is the hard part. Once you get your house in order and clutter free, it is a whole lot easier to maintain. Tomorrow we will look at some specific ways to help organize your house.
Get Your Children Involved!
One thing I hear so often is
My kids won’t do it or no one will help me!
Guess what? In the end, you are the parent, and it’s up to you to model the activity you want and make it work. You don’t have to be bosy and ye;;. Whispering will get your child’s attention faster than yelling ever could. Why, you ask? Because, they have to come close to hear to hear you, and by that time they are looking at you wondering why you are whispering in the first place. Be creative in your parenting. When your children are whining and throwing a fit explain to them that you will talk to them when they use their “big girl/boy voice”. Don’t let them whine or throw a fit. You have to maintain control. Walk away if you need to. For more on this, check out Why Yelling Doesn’t Work on Dad in the Middle.
When your teen explains to you that they just aren’t going to do it, give them a couple of choices and then walk away! Choice 1 is “You can help me for 10 minutes and then you can go be with your friends.” Choice 2 is “You can complain, cry and argue, however you will do it in your room, and you’re not going to your friends.” Then, walk away. Let them make the choice on their own. Once the choice is made though, you have to stick with it. Don’t give in or change the rules. They are part of your family, and you are the boss. Kids love to help, but a tone has to be set, and it’s up to you to set that tone! Priorities are so important! Routines are what helped our family define roles! We are all part of the Jenkins Family. We use that term so often the “Jenkins Family” does this or “The Jenkins Family” does not do that. It helps to define who we are. We are a team, and we appreciate the effort for big things as well as small.