Dealing with Crazy Seasons

Barbara Graves —  January 20, 2011

Everything in our lives has seasons.  And everything requires our attention at a different time.  My family may need more attention this month, work may need more attention next month, and writing may need more work in between.  Rarely does a garden grow neatly together, with every crop needing the same amount of attention as the row next to it.  One week it’s the tomatoes that need to be staked and tied.  The next week, the beans will have reached the point to cage them and the following week requires weeding in an entirely different section.

Much the same, I believe the lives of those in children’s ministry are often like that garden.  And what starts as a little vegetable garden, can easily become a full working farm.  I believe part of that is because  children’s ministry volunteers are the most resilient and productive people on the planet.  They can do more with little than anyone else I know.  Our ministry seems to attract that personality. I found many years ago that I love to tackle the impossible.  And if it came to a children’s ministry event or program that was needed, but impossible to see done, I jumped at the chance to do it!  God did a lot of wonderful things and I did a lot of late night, work-myself-crazy-weekends, but for a great cause.  I loved it.  What a rush to pull it off!

What I learned was that all of it was ok, but only for a season.  You can’t live that way day in and day out, week in and week out, year in and year out.  Even though the events were fun, and worthwhile, and Godly, I had to learn to be careful with my seasons.  I couldn’t keep adding more to do, no matter how good it was.  If I could get a new venture started, and hand it off, then it’s ok, because the extra demand for time and resulting craziness was for a season.  But if there wasn’t a clear plan to end that season, I learned to say no.  Well, I learned to say, not now.  I have a hard time not being crazy and it has made a world of difference in every facet of my “garden”.

How do you deal with crazy seasons in your life?

Barbara Graves

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Barbara is a married mother of 4 grown kids. She is the volunteer Children’s Pastor at Momentum Church in Woodstock, GA where she oversees kids from birth to 5th grade. She can often be found driving around north Georgia, usually with a cup of coffee in her hand.

One response to Dealing with Crazy Seasons

  1. Great article! What most of you do not know is that this “article” was originally part of an e-mail Barbara sent to me in response to my request for advice on the future of my ministry. Barbara, along with some other wonderful people, helped me to see clearly, and once and for all, that the path I was on was not sustainable. I was working the crazy hours and neglecting other important things, but I did not have a plan for lessening that load or getting back into balance. To the contrary, I had actually convinced myself that my life was in balance. Barbara’s e-mail, part of which is now this article, helped me to understand how unsustainable my pace was over the long term.

    I asked Barbara in the first place because I am aware of some of the crazy schedules and responsibilities she maintains and value her input on issues like this because of that. When she talks about being busy, it is not theoretical or postulating on what it may be like, she is speaking from personal experience. That kind of advice is invaluable.

    I would encourage everyone in kidmin, even those of you who feel like your life is in perfect balance, to print this article and file it away. When you are passionate about something, it is easy to let that passion become an unhealthy obsession. There is a good chance that you will need this article sometime in the future!

    Thanks again Barbara, for this article, for your advice, and for your friendship. You truly are a blessing to all of us!