She’s the One

Wendy Douglas —  January 26, 2011

You know the one. The one child that stands back from the rest of the group. The one child who sits down during the games. The one child who crosses her arms during worship. The one child who hangs her head when asked a question in small group. You know the one.

I know her. She’s the one. She’s the one that challenges me to engage her every week. She’s the one that challenges me to connect with her every week. She’s the one that challenges me to love her. And I do. So very much.

She and I had a bit of a breakthrough this past Sunday. The kids in KidzPlayce are learning and memorizing the books of the Bible during our time of fasting. She said that she wasn’t sure if she was ready, but wanted to try. Off she went to recite them to our KidzPlayce director. When she came back to small group, she was so disappointed that she had missed a few. My first words to her were “I’m so proud of you.” I went on to tell her how courageous she was for trying as she was the only one in our group to do so. Then it happened. She lifted her head and gave me the very best smile that I have ever seen outside of my boys. Ahhh…contact.

Yep, she’s the one.

Do you have one of your own in your children’s ministry? How do you reach out to them? How are you connecting with them?

Wendy Douglas

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Wendy is married to a warrior for the last 18 years and Mom to three boys. She volunteers in KidzPlace at The Gathering Church in Sevierville, TN. She reads almost anything she can get her hands on. In addition to contributing to Kidmin1124, she maintains her own blog called Saved Sister at

4 responses to She’s the One

  1. Awesome story Wendy – very encouraging. Thanks for sharing it. It’s really kids like this that need our children’s ministries the most – the tough ones. So many people want to just ignore them or write them off as “unreachable.” What an insult to God when we won’t take the time to invest in them and love them. The rewards are eternal!

  2. I think this is an excellent, and moving, example of what relational ministry looks like. It can take time, but when it clicks, it is so rewarding. Your KidzPlayce girls are lucky to have you.

  3. Great article. Thanks for sharing. Isn’t it amazing the power a few little words have on those around us.

  4. This reminded me of the year in Sparks (at Awana) that I had the 10 boys that no one thought they could connect with or be able to handle. There was the bully, the two with ADHD, the instigator, and all the boys that talked or interrupted constantly. But there was one from a broken home. He thought his mom didn’t love him anymore and had withdrawn. I don’t have the space for all the details but through his attendance at club and by showing him Christ’s love and helping him to memorize God’s word, he grew to know he could count on me but even more so on God. He really opened up when he learned that God would never leave or forsake him (Hebrews 13:5) and has grown to be a wonderful young man, eager to serve other kids like him!