Archives For Relationship

Dealing With Difficult People

Jared Massey —  February 10, 2012

Last night’s Kidmin1124 radio show was another success.  We discussed dealing with difficult people and our questions ranged from dealing with kids, volunteers, and parents.  I’m once again embedding the audio at the end of this post in case you missed the show. 

As we talked about dealing with difficult people, I just can’t get out of my head how my God has constantly been patient in dealing with me.  I’m reminded of 2 Peter 3:9 which says, “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”  What if we applied this to the way we deal with others.  If the drive to see people come to repentence overrode our desire to see them punished.  I especially think this would change how we deal with difficult kids in our ministries.

I firmly believe that grace is one of the greatest tools we have in children’s ministry.  Grace doesn’t excuse bad behavior:  it forgives it.  I don’t think grace says, “Oh, it’s no big deal.”  Grace, at least in my life, is the constant reminder that it is a big deal, but I’m a bigger deal.  God cares more about me than He does my sin, so much so that He sent His son to die for me.  God has been patient with me, even when I constantly fail Him.  How much more so should I be patient and show grace to a child? I’m committed to giving the kids in my ministry at least as many chances as God has given me, which means I should run out during about year 1,948,893,543 of eternity (assuming I’m perfect from here on out).

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Is This The End?

Wendy Douglas —  June 16, 2011

 Transitions can be challenging including when our fifth graders move out of children’s ministry into student ministry. We can plan and encourage our kids through this time, but there is something that I was reminded of recently.

This isn’t the end of our influence with these kids.

Yes it is the end of our time with them in children’s ministry. We won’t be having that time of connection with them, but we will still have opportunities to speak into their lives. This might take some thinking outside of the box and definitely will take extra effort, but I believe they are totally worth it.

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I Love You Daddy

John Foley —  April 20, 2011

“Daddy, I love you.” *silence* “Daddy, I love you!”

” I love you too buddy.”

“I told you this many times. Two. You didn’t say yours first time. Why?”

The above was a short conversation I had with my four year old son this morning. The conversation was very short but had a very strong impact on me. Kids want to know that they are loved.

My post will be as short as this conversation, but I hope it will also have a strong impact and will spark some conversation.

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At first glance this may seem like a strange question. I mean we minister through our ministry, right? Well track with me for a minute while I become a bit vulnerable. I just finished watching some old episodes of the TV show Undercover Boss. The gist of the show is to take the CEO of a major corporation and put him or her in a series of line level positions to allow him to get a better appreciation for the people that keep the company running. In each of the cases that I watched, the CEO went into the experience thinking that it would be about one thing and ended it with a completely different focus. At the end of the experience each of these CEOs realized that what really mattered and what made their companies great was people. Nearly every one of them said that is was people that mattered. This almost seems like a no brainer in ministry, but I think it needs to be said. As I concluded the last episode I realized that my focus was not really where it needed to be. I was not focused on people.

I love people yet somehow I let doing my ministry keep me from ministering to people. As a part time, volunteer, or bi-vocational children’s worker this can be an easy trap to fall into. I mean there is just so much work to do and often the expectations are not greatly decreased simply because we are not full-time. For me In my attempt to build a great children’s ministry I got so focused on tasks that I lost sight of people. As I think about Jesus’ ministry I realize that there is no mention of the running of his ministry. There were details that had to be addressed, He and the disciples had to eat, they had to sleep and they had to give some thought to where they were going to go next. Despite all of the details that would clearly have had to be taken care of, there is very little mention of any of them. In fact the only time that we read anything about these day to day things is when Jesus used them to teach a lesson, or to minister to people. Jesus’ focus was never on the things he had to do. Rather his focus was on PEOPLE.

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